Within the phone call, I expressed some changes in our life and shared some of my own frustrations. During this discussion, I realized that I was saying things like, [my son] has been super helpful and supportive, but then he will yell at me because i ask him to do one more thing without recognizing the seven things he did for me or the family. The counselor responded, "So normal stuff?"
I was taken aback by the sentiment of normalcy. I did not have to explain my novice psychological assessment of the situation - not excusing, but explaining. I did not beat myself up for allowing such chaos in my children's lives. I sighed and smiled just drawing in the words, "So normal stuff?"
I once had a friend say to me, "You say everything like it's completely normal and nothing you say ever is." My response, "It's regular, never normal."