I received a phone call from one of my kids' counselors from school. Recently there has been some chaos in our home and needless to say, the children have needed some added support with school work as reinforcement that their emotions are valid.
Within the phone call, I expressed some changes in our life and shared some of my own frustrations. During this discussion, I realized that I was saying things like, [my son] has been super helpful and supportive, but then he will yell at me because i ask him to do one more thing without recognizing the seven things he did for me or the family. The counselor responded, "So normal stuff?"
I was taken aback by the sentiment of normalcy. I did not have to explain my novice psychological assessment of the situation - not excusing, but explaining. I did not beat myself up for allowing such chaos in my children's lives. I sighed and smiled just drawing in the words, "So normal stuff?"
I once had a friend say to me, "You say everything like it's completely normal and nothing you say ever is." My response, "It's regular, never normal."
Within the phone call, I expressed some changes in our life and shared some of my own frustrations. During this discussion, I realized that I was saying things like, [my son] has been super helpful and supportive, but then he will yell at me because i ask him to do one more thing without recognizing the seven things he did for me or the family. The counselor responded, "So normal stuff?"
I was taken aback by the sentiment of normalcy. I did not have to explain my novice psychological assessment of the situation - not excusing, but explaining. I did not beat myself up for allowing such chaos in my children's lives. I sighed and smiled just drawing in the words, "So normal stuff?"
I once had a friend say to me, "You say everything like it's completely normal and nothing you say ever is." My response, "It's regular, never normal."
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